How do I tell them what I need?
Sometimes it’s hard to ask for help and it can be difficult to know what to say. Talk to an adult you trust like a parent, family member, or helpful adult at school or on your course. A helpline counsellor (from QLife or Lifeline) can be a good start.
Part of the job of a doctor, nurse, counsellor and many other adults is to help young people who are feeling down, stressed, suicidal or just worried about what's going on, but none of them can read your mind. You need to let them know what’s happening for you.
You could try saying something like "I want some help because of how I'm feeling", "I'm feeling really bad and I don't know what to do", "I've been feeling suicidal" or "I think I am depressed/ stressed/ anxious and I need some help". Some people like to take a family member or friend with them, or to write down what they are worried about.
Remember, anything you say to a doctor or counsellor is confidential. This means they can’t tell other people what you’ve said, unless they are really worried about your safety. Even if they have to disclose your thoughts about suicide or self harm to keep you safe, they don’t have to disclose your gender identity.
What if the people I ask don't help?
Try again. Try asking more clearly, or ask someone else for help. There are lots of people who can help, so don't give up. Support is out there.
Find more community support and information services on our Info for Trans and Gender Diverse Young People page.